I woke up New Year’s Day and realised I hadn’t written my monthly blog post. Oh, the horror! 😉 Immediately I began brainstorming blog topics like, ‘it’s the start of another year’, ‘time to make New Year resolutions’ – at which point I think I did a little vomit in my mouth. Puh-lease! Someone telling me to try a new hobby, lose some weight, achieve my goals by June blah blah blah, just makes me want to cringe!
We all want to start off our year well, but I believe we need to look at life-long attitude changes, not a 2018 quick-fix.Many of you wouldn’t be aware that I’ve battled stress and anxiety since I was a child, as well as post-natal depression with my second daughter. The anxiety struggle has been life-long, but in recent years I’ve managed it well. One of the reasons I think this is the case, is that I repeat and believe in my own mantra – Be brave, be kind, be present.
I came up with my mantra after watching Disney’s 2015 Cinderella. Yes, I still watch kid’s movies! At the beginning of the film, Cinderella’s mother is dying, and she says to Cinderella, ‘I want to tell you a secret that will see you through all the trials that life can offer. Have courage, and be kind.’ Such a simple sentiment, but one that is reiterated throughout the story inspirationally. I was engrossed in the film, and by the end I felt empowered (so corny huh!), realising I could apply her secret to my own life.
I’m not going to go on and on about it, I just wanted to explain how I use my mantra in a practical way, every day:
- Wake up in the morning and be ready to accept whatever challenges await.
- Have the courage to be myself, and stand up for myself.
- Speak my mind, rather than bottling up my feelings.
- Pursue my goals, even when they feel out of reach or scary.
- Be a positive role model for my girls.
- I’m ‘wealthy’ in many ways, and I should share my good fortune with others.
- Be kind to myself, and give myself a break.
- Stay kind, even in the face of negativity or outright rudeness from others.
- I can do and say little things that make another person’s day.
- Cherish my family and friends.
- Stop worrying about the future, que sera` sera` – whatever will be, will be.
- Spend real time now with my girls and help them grow as individuals.
- Take the time to breathe, and enjoy the here and now.
There you go, a touchy-feely blog post! Blogging this month was slightly cathartic if I’m totally honest with you, and a great reminder for me to keep things in perspective.
Next month, don’t expect a deep and meaningful blog – it’s all about balance!